Attention New Moms - Overcoming a Negative Body Image in Bed

Carson Kressley has hit a nerve. Maybe that's why his Lifetime television program, How to Look Good Naked, is one of the most popular reality shows on television. Most women are terribly insecure with their bodies in bathing suits, let alone naked.

While I watched his interview on Oprah, I couldn't help but think of new moms. Staring at one's baby pooch can be flat out depressing, squelching any kind of desire to get naked with one's husband. Yet it's still important to re-engage sexually with your husband. And a big part of that is about overcoming a negative body image in bed.

In their excellent book, Intimate Issues: 21 Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex, authors Linda Dillow & Lorraine Pintus have a chapter titled, "Where Can I Go to Buy a New Body?" Can you relate? They asked 25 friends of their friends if they were satisfied with their bodies. Every single one of them said no. They claimed to be too tall or too short, too fat or too skinny.

Today's woman has bought into the lie that she has to look like a Victoria Secret model to be sexy. But being a great lover in bed has more to do with your attitude than your measurements.

So what can a new mother do to overcome her disdain for her body, and celebrate lovemaking with her husband, even if the lights are on?

1. Remember that your husband loves you and your body. Dr. John Gray, author of Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, says "When a man is in love and turned on by his wife, he is also totally entranced by the feminine beauty of her body, regardless of where the media would rank it on a scale of one to ten."

2. Change your attitude from "me centered" to "he centered." Put your husband first. Don't fixate on your insecurities. Instead think of how you can please him. When you take the spotlight off yourself and put it on your spouse, you forget about your imperfections.

3. Avoid the dangers of pornography. 40 million adults in the US regularly visit Internet porn sites. Pornography is a major problem in families today, dividing husbands and wives sexually and emotionally. Moms, don't allow your insecurity about your body to stand in the way of meeting your husband's sexual needs.

When you offer your body to your spouse out of love, it doesn't matter what shape or size you are. Be encouraged - it is possible to be sexy in bed after baby. And don't worry about the extra love handles. They will come off in time with some work on your part. For now, concentrate on your attitude. Don't be afraid to keep the lights on and get naked with your husband.

5 Ways to Attract the Relationships You Want

There has been a time in my life when relationships were a source of great discontentment in my life. I worked around negative people. I didn't have a lot of the kinds of friends I wanted. I was in a marriage that was lonely and filled with conflict. Although today all my relationships are not perfect, I feel blessed with the quality of people in my life. Much has changed and I've learned a lot about how to attract the relationships I want in life.

When you think about relationships, our lives are filled with so many. You may have a spouse whom you share your life with. You probably have children who you interact with on a regular basis. No doubt you have a few friends or maybe many friends. You might be a daughter to a mom and dad, a niece to an aunt or uncle, or a sister to one or more siblings. It's possible that you work or volunteer with people everyday. Are your relationships everything you want them to be? Do they nurture you and fill you up or do they drain your energy, leaving you feeling depleted? If you're like most people, you probably have relationships that do a little of both.

Relationships are essential to our survival and well being. God did not create us to go through life alone. Our relationships teach us more about who we are and who we are not. They highlight what we want in life and what we don't want. Relationships challenge us to grow in ways we might not grow on our own. When you think about your own relationships, I want to encourage you to look at ways you might attract more of what you want from your relationships.

Know What You Want

Do you know exactly what you want in a relationship? Is it the same for every kind of relationship you have? Make a list of the criteria you have for a positive or healthy relationship. Your list might look something like this:

* The parties must treat each other with respect
* There needs to be an acceptance and appreciation of each other's differences
* Each person should know how to resolve issues without fighting or arguing
* The relationships should provide an emotional connection
* We should work together in a way that is fair for all parties involved
* We should support and encourage one another
* There needs to be openness and honesty with thoughts and feelings
* We need to be able to laugh and have fun together

Now you can look at each of your relationships and decide if it meets your requirements. If not, you have a starting point for creating what you want. All of us, at any time, have five choices regarding our relationships. We can accept the relationship the way it is and be happy. We can remain a victim to the relationship. We can change the relationship. We can change our perspective of the relationship. We can leave the relationship.

Change Your Beliefs about What You Deserve

If you want the best relationships have to offer, you have to believe you deserve the best. Otherwise, you will settle for less than the best. At your core, what do you believe about relationships and people? Some limiting beliefs might be:

* All marriage partners fight.
* Most people in corporate America are negative.
* You have to be careful about who you trust.
* Most people are in a relationship for themselves.
* There are no good guys or good gals left - they're all married.

Whatever you believe, you will attract. So start believing what you want is truly possible.

Be Who Your Ideal Is

In my workshops, I tell women that if they want to attract inspiring friends, they must be an inspiring friend. We are energetic human beings, and like energy attracts like energy. The other day a woman shared a story about lunchtime at her place of business. All the co-workers would sit around in the lunchroom eating their lunches. One person would start to complain about the company or her job, and then the next person would chime in. Before you know it, a gripe session had begun. This woman told me that she found herself not being who she wanted to be, and instead joining the negativity with the rest of the crowd. Go back to your criteria for a positive and healthy relationship, and be all of those characteristics in your relationships. You will be a leader and force of change in your own life.

Stop the Ugly Dance

In the most intimate relationships, we often engage in the ugly dance. Our partner, or someone we're very close to, will say something that triggers us. From our subconscious mind, we react, and the dance begins. This happened to me the other day when I was talking to my mom. She said to me, "This year I am not going to go all out for Christmas because my kids don't appreciate it." There was the bait. In the past, this fish (me) would have taken a bite of that bait, but not this time. I stopped what could have been an ugly dance. I refrained from defending myself and telling her that she was wrong. I let my mom have her feelings while I just listened and politely changed the subject. Every person that comes into a relationship, including ourselves, has some emotional baggage we carry with us. Drop the luggage and stop the ugly dance.

Create a Sacred Space

Michael Port, renowned business coach and author of "Book Yourself Solid", talks about having a red velvet rope policy in your business. I like to use that policy in my life. Imagine you are entering a high quality event like an opera or The Grammy Awards ceremony. You walk up to the attendant and hand him your high priced ticket and he opens the red velvet rope to let you through. Pretend your life is that high quality event and you get to decide who enters that sacred space. One of my friends is a very inspiring person. A lot of people want to enter her sacred space, but only a few get past the red velvet rope. Is it because she is mean? No, it is because she understands the importance of protecting her energy and keeping her life positive. Who gets to enter your sacred space?

Positive and high energy relationships will add more to your life than you can imagine. So start today and attract exactly what you want from your relationships. Your life will be forever blessed with peace, happiness and fulfillment.

Rev Up The Romance In Your Relationship

Life is too short not to be romantic. Being romantic will add happiness to your days and years to your life. Romantic people are young at heart and they enjoy a fully mature relationship. Romantic's have greater confidence, demonstrate greater courage, and they make this a better world to live in.

Here is some romance building advice to make your relationship all it can be:

1. Becoming romantic is similar to physically working out. Everybody knows they need to exercise and a lot of people resist it. Everybody knows working out is good for them but many don't like the hassle of it. Regardless of how you feel about working out it is a habit that comes with benefits. These benefits are better health and happiness. The same benefits are yours when you develop your romantic strength. I know tough guys in the gym who are lightweights in the love department. Be strong in both physical and romantic strength.

2. Don't label yourself or your partner as someone who "just isn't romantic." You may respond with, "well, it's the truth." Perhaps it has been but if you ever want to change this you will have to use the old reverse psychology approach. Label yourself and/or your partner as being "romantic". Positive reinforcement has a much better chance than a more discouraging label.

3. Romance is not a chore. Romance is an opportunity. It is one of the best gifts life has to offer. Don't miss out on these blessings. Don't let your friends pollute your mind with any thoughts to the contrary.

4. Strive to be romantic 365 days a year. Who says romance is limited only to Valentine's Day? I and everybody else will feel sorry for your partner if this is the standard you live by. Can you imagine how a change in your daily perspective could make your life so much better? Romantic people have partners who adore them. Romantic people are happier throughout the week, not just on the weekends.

5. Be more playful with your partner. Many men and women give their best self to their career. They come home from working with nothing but the leftovers of themselves. The weekend is spent regrouping for the following week. Sounds like a rat race to me. Get off this treadmill and allow you and the person you love to have some fun. Let your playful, goofy side come out and I promise you will actually be more productive in all areas of your life.

6. Learn from your past mistakes. If something isn't working in your relationship, spend time evaluating why this is so. Don't condemn yourself but learn from your errors. What did you do last Valentine's Day? Was it a success or a flop? What could you have done better? How could you have made your partner feel more special? How about your partner's birthday? Your anniversary? Get the picture? Always strive to improve your efforts. Like mentioned in #1 above, exercise your romantic muscles. Push yourself so that you can do more and more.

7. Utilize your own special talents. You don't have to reinvent the wheel. You have abilities that bring you success. What are they? Are you good at writing, organizing, creating, cooking or building? Simply consider how to apply these talents in the romance department. Since you have these strengths you might as well make the most of them.

8. Don't use gifts and flowers as a way to apologize. Presents should express thoughtfulness, not regret. If you give flowers or presents after you have had an argument or hurt your partner's feelings, you are usually wasting your money. Apologies should be sincere words and the demonstration of repentant actions.

This is your life. Enjoy it. Be creative and have fun. Believe in love and feel the magic that can be yours. Fall in love every day through the power of romance!

Last Minute Valentine's Idea to Make Your Valentine Happy

What will make your valentine happy and satisfied on Valentine's Day?

Tip for men: If it's a woman you are trying to please - whether your wife or girlfriend - above all, give her attention. She will enjoy the gifts and the card and

flowers if you give them. But mostly she will want you to focus on her, to tell her you love her, to spend time with her without distractions.

Make Valentine's Day a smashing success by making sure that wherever you are and whatever you do, you give your beloved lady time, attention and focus. Here are

some ideas:

* Call her from work and tell her you are thinking about her.

* Linger a little with her when you first see her. Hold her a bit tighter and give her a bit of a longer kiss.

* If you are going out to dinner or a show, having an intimate dinner at home, or even dinner with the kids, pay less attention to what's going on around you

and more attention to her.

• Make sure to end the night with some more extra attention, of whatever kind you choose J

Tip for women: If it's a man you are trying to please - whether your husband or boyfriend - above all give him approval. He will also enjoy the gifts and the card.

But mostly he will be looking for how much you appreciate what he has done for you and how much you appreciate his love for you.

Make Valentine's Day a loving day by making sure that wherever you are and whatever you do, you give your beloved man your approval. Here are some ideas:

* Call him at work or tuck a note into his lunch/briefcase/jacket to tell him how much you appreciate him.

* Before you see him, make a list of qualities you appreciate about him and things he does and ways he treats you that you appreciate.

* When you see him, linger a little with him. Thank him for something on the list above.

* No matter what he does for you or gives you or arranges for Valentine's Day, be sure to see the love and thought and the desire to please you that went into

the gift/event/plan.

* Make sure to give him extra touch and appreciation into the night.

Did these tips work for you? Did they improve your Valentine's Day experience? I would love to hear from you.

Single on Valentine's Day - Banish the Blues This Way

Love is in the air. Romance abounds. Love is everywhere. Love, Love yuck! Enough already! What if you are single? Suppose you are not one of those wrapped up in your dream relationship? Should you just stay home and drink or drown your sorrows in a box of decadent chocolate? Don't you dare hang your head! Oh no! Lift up your head and let's get started banishing those Valentine's Day Blues!

First of all, love is for everyone. It is not some treasure that is exclusive for couples to enjoy. You may be tired of seeing red hearts and commercials of lovers embracing. If you are a single woman, you may just have a belly full of seeing devastatingly handsome men buying beautiful ladies diamonds that would cost a mint to purchase.

For you men, are you tired of seeing some average guy stepping out with a pretty woman for a night to celebrate their romance and you are scratching your head wondering how did he ever get her to look at him? Some many singles face the media and everyone else bombarding them with the message, that cupid visits many but forgot your address. No, cupid did not forget you.

Are you thinking cupid is asleep or that he is never going to point his bow in your direction? Well, lets set the record straight for cupid and everyone else. The fact is, Valentines Day can be really hard on singles, but it doesn't have to be. There are some singles who desire to be in a great relationship and it just hasn't happened. At least not yet. Instead of falling into a negative mood over Valentine's Day, here is what you can do instead:

* Learn to celebrate YOU. Come to know and appreciate your own value as a person. Your martial status does not dictate your value or your status. If you don't respect, love and embrace who you are, no one else will.

* Don't allow the media, your family or your friends to ever put you in box and label you in any way. You are already complete and a whole person, learn to be happy with you.

* Stop watching the commercials, the radio spots and the newspaper ads that drive home the point of view that love = couples. It is simply not true. The whole world does not evolve around couples. Just turn it off if you cannot tune it out. The commercials are designed to make money for the advertisers. You cannot let media dictate to you.

* Get busy doing things you enjoy with people you enjoy being with. Learn to live your life to the fullest everyday. Get out and mingle with others.

* Try to do something different. If you are like most of us, you have a list of things a mile long you would like to do. Get started on that list. If not now, when?

* Share love on Valentine's Day with those you love. You don't have to be part of a twosome to spread the love.

Being single has many advantages. Yes, you heard me right. There are many freedoms and things you can do because you do not have to share your decisions with another person. You are free to choose how you spend your money, your time and you get to choose the direction you want your life to go in. Learn to be content where you are, work on improving yourself now (it is much easier to do that work now instead of in a relationship), and give cupid a chance to get his job done. So lift your head and cheer up. Don't you know, the single life can really ROCK!! Get busy banishing those Valentine's Day Blues.

Relationships and Business Schools

Business schools are not usually a great place to find a new life mate, because business schools generally have students that start off at an older age than schools of other professions. It is said that the average age of a student in business school is 27, while most other professional schools students are in their early twenties, with twenty one being the average age of most first year students.

Statistically one third of students of business schools also are either already married or in a serious committed relationships. This means that going to business school can quite commonly be a total life style change, especially going from two jobs and two pay checks to having to live off of one pay check. When you put children into the mix, this can be a huge strain on the family budget.

One way that students get more money is to apply for bursaries, scholarships and student loans, but even these are not assured, plus there is the yearly emotional rollercoaster of uncertainty of whether the student will be eligible for this "found money"

Studies report that the first year of the degree is the hardest on relationships, not only because the money is halved, but because of the 24/7 nature of the full time MBA program. There is also the problem of the going back to college mentality, with the inevitable after class pub crawls and getting home at 2 am. This certainly puts stress on relationships. Unfortunately, it is common for adults to quickly regress to their attitudes of the early 20's attitudes, and slip into the "meeting the boys after for a late night basketball game and a beer" mentality. Of course, the partner who is staying at home with the children and bringing in the pay check is often not very happy with this turn of events. This is a big factor in the expression as an MBA being the "Divorce Degree".

Often the partners, especially women, come into the first year as the supporting partner with the attitude that this life style change of their partner going back to school full time will be good in the future, so they will put up with the things that often accompany a spouse going back to school. These include from moving to a new city and losing their contacts with friends and family to less money and less time together...all the stuff that goes along with going back to school.

But often, this leads to feelings of anger and depression as they see their life being put on hold and their partner's life going full tilt ahead. This can easily lead to jealousy of the new, more exciting school life. If you think about it, it is easy to think that the partner staying at home with the children and going to work full time feels unexciting compared to the husbands peers that are learning, traveling, taking interesting exciting courses on the side. Often they will begin to worry that partner's new peers are looking a lot more attractive, and worldly compared to the person staying at home and changing diapers.

Although it may seem that the working partner is the only one feeling this way, they have to realise that they are not alone in this problem, and there are ways to diffuse and alleviate the frustrations that occur with this change of life style. Communication is the number one thing on the list of "to do" changes. Previously, partners were used to seeing each other very day, and had common interest, but school can change all of that.

Often couples set aside one night a week for a date, where they can re-bond and talk about their week. This ensures that both partners know what the other is doing, and both will feel less isolated. They can also set a time aside to do a special activity that they both enjoy together, such as a sport, or hobby. Another common activity could be for the partner to become more involved in business school activities, as most schools have many activities that are suitable for both people in a working relationship.

Another important thing to do is to make sure that the partner staying at home sets independent goals from the partner attending school full time. Whether that is taking a night class, going back to school themselves, or learning a new interest, this will help boost self worth and can dispel feelings of jealousy and inadequacy.

In the end, going back to business school to earn a MBA can be stressful on a relationship, but if you can continue to communicate and enjoy the time that you do have together, it does not have to be the end of a relationship, but rather the beginning of a new, exciting life together.

Jealousy Isn't a Good Feeling

Jealousy is something that we are all aware of. A time comes in our life when we tend to be jealous of someone. This is a state of mind in which we have bad thoughts, feelings or behaviour. Jealousy is seen in a person's life irrespective of his or her age, a baby that is not more than 5 months old or even an elderly person that is over the age of 65. Jealousy can be stated as an opposing attitude where a person tends to get jealous about his or her affairs with someone or this could be a case in the office where your colleague might have got the promotion where you thought you were the deserving one. This is nothing but your mind that has forced you in this opposing thought of yours.

Jealousy can be a normal feeling for any one who feels that may be he/she is the deserving candidate and was supposed to be chosen before another, this weird thought might last for not more than a day's time. But if at all this thought starts interrupting your life and you tend to feel jealous about others every now and then there is a problem that needs to be dealt with. Jealousy is bad state of mind where a person can go to the extent of murdering someone or maybe even himself.

Jealousy can also be seen in the person who tends to feel that his/her spouse has an affair, even though he/she might not be involved in such an act. This is your subconscious mind that makes you think this way and such behaviour reflects your insecurity in life. A jealous mind is a frustrating, embarrassing and painful experience and if you're dealing with it, it's a very hurtful and terrible experience.

Overcoming jealousy can be a very difficult situation. Hypnosis is recommended by many psychiatrists to help you in the process of prevailing over your mind that is stressed and anxious. Hypnosis dealing with your mind helps it to relax and makes it strong enough to deal with such ill feelings. A mind that is distracted by jealousy and stress is moulded back to perfection and helps you overcome the situation. Instead of thinking jealously you will start working towards your goals.

Hypnosis treatment that can help you is easily available for you as you can get an mp3 download from the Internet. These mp3 downloads are easily available and have many advantages. They consist of a self-hypnotizing system where you are guided to hypnotize yourself and get results out of it Mp3 downloads will come to you as a boon and your mind will be least bothered about the concerns of others where you will work towards your own goals instead of being jealous about others. Hypnosis for jealousy helps you come in terms with reality rather than the hyper picture you had started believing in. you learn to see things as they are and not as a figment of your imagination. Hypnosis treatment enables you to strengthen the mind against such shortcomings and make it a better place where you learn to distinguish reality and appreciate the good things.

Why Women Stay In Abusive Dating Relationships

Life is short just live it to the fullest. Even when you are dating a person, you are in that relationship because you love that person and it makes you happy to be in love. But when your point of affection, your source of happiness turns into a tormentor, you have every reason to be very worried. When did things start changing for the worse? What really went wrong? And why for heavens sake should you stick to an abusive relationship? Why would you allow a person to trash and trample upon your very basic rights? An abusive dating relationship is unhealthy. It is a relationship sitting on a powder keg. It can go off any time. It is a time bomb waiting to explode unless very urgent measures are taken to arrest the situation before it goes out of hand.

An abusive dating relationship shows there are disparities between the couple which can either be bridged or the divide is too wide to fill. Understanding the root cause of the problem is important in order to comprehend this weighty issue. A dating relationship is a two way traffic. Partners compliment each other. One partner's needs are met and fulfilled in the other. It is so mutual and symbiotic you feel bereaved when your mate is not there. What i am trying to say here is that compatibility is the key word. It is what glues two people together. An abusive dating relationship is an indicator of incompatibility. What would drive you to abuse a person you "love". If your partner is abusing you, try and see where you went wrong. Also evaluate your partner, how he relates with you, his background. Maybe he was brought up in an abusive relationship or he was abused in his childhood.

Sometimes a woman stays in an abusive dating relationship for the sake of their children. What would happen if she calls it quit? She becomes hesitant fearing the repercussions her children will face in case of a separation. But what would bridge this gap? Can this couple be reconciled and be able to live again harmoniously and in love? It depends with the two parties concerned. Their is no issue however contentious that cannot be discussed and solved. However if the feelings of attraction, love and affection are no longer there, then the relationship is irreparable. You cannot change the way a person feels towards something. Quit and look for a new beginning.

Your partner could be trying to pass a message to you. He could be showing you a red light. That it is high time you went separate ways, only that you don't seem to pick the signal. He doesn't want to tell you in black and white that go and never turn back. The spark that kept the fire burning is no longer there hence there is no reason to stick together. When in an abusive dating relationship, it is wise to always have an exit avenue. Be prepared psychologically that you can quit and go your separate way. If your partner is abusing you he also does not respect you. You mean nothing to him. Do not stick there, move on. It's your life. You might never know what you have been missing until you quit that relationship.

Guys Need Women That Are Street Fighters

Many single men are now searching to find a woman companion that can street fight. This has happened since watching the kick boxing tournaments that were recently held at Las Vegas. There women fighters displayed their talents magnificently. A man that can't street fight for what ever reason dreams of having one of those ladies for a girlfriend or even a wife. Because the best way a helpless man can protect himself is by having a female street fighter as a girlfriend. She will be on his side if attacked by a crazy man or street bully. Having protection against violence has become even more important to a helpless guy then sexual pleasure. He dreams of the day when he will be physically secure.

If you are a woman that would like to make yourself more valuable to a guy that is a poor street fighter, join a karate training school. But remember that you can never duplicate a man in certain areas of strength. A closed fist blow to a mans chest is useless if used by a woman. There are better ways for a woman to use her power. Learn to escape from the ground when being mounted, pinned down or held down. Discard techniques that require some degree of strength to work. Bolster your skills with pressure point strikes. They will cause the assailant to lose control of his limbs and mobility. Poke the eyes, stomp the feet, and use the old reliable kick in the balls, it is usually a winner.

Once a women is trained as a competent street fighter she will become extremely precious to an elderly or physically weak husband. He will not leave the house without her. If single she will have no problem finding a guy. Most men have no street fighting skills and need a lady to protect them. When dating a guy the women that is an expert at street fighting should make her date aware of it. If his intentions are to assault her he will quickly change his mind. If he lives in fear of being a victim of violence himself she will have found a guy that will always cling to her.

When filling out a profile at a dating service you should put it at the top of the list that you are a competent street fighter. You will be swamped with offers of marriage by men that need protection against violence. If you are a lonely woman that has little to offer most men, this is your chance to get a great guy. Learn how to street fight and tell your dates that you are the best. I am sure you will never be lonely again.

What Women Really Want, Believe, Think, Fear And Desire Most In A Partner - Are You Aware Of These?

Isn't this the question almost every man out there seems to have? Almost every man wants to know what women really want in a man when it comes to all the aspects of life. You see women always say they want their man to be such and such but never reveal the real factors they are truly looking for. Now you are about to discover some of the most little known facts women never share with men. Read on to discover what these factors and use them to achieve earth shattering results with women right now...

They want a combo- If you think they only want a few things in their man than you are strongly mistaken. Do you know why some men always say women demand a lot? Because they just simply do it's in their nature. You see women want a total combo of all the social, emotional and physical elements in their man.

They believe that you should be confident- Confidence is the key in every area of life and it can do wonders for you if you know how to use it right in the dating world therefore learn to develop a strong self confidence.

You must be smarter than them- Women want you to be smart and they would only be impressed if you out smart them therefore learn to develop your intellectual skills.

They fear your past- Now this is something you should always be honest about. You should never hide any relationships or flings you have had in the past as women have tools to figure it out themselves therefore it's better to tell them than to get caught.

They want you to desire them- Women want a man who can love them and desire them all their life irrespective of their physical appearance and the changing times.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but men absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover some of the most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know- 9 Most Shocking Secrets Women don't want men to know

Valentine Ideas For Your Ex

One of the more awkward holidays for couples who have recently broken up is Valentine's Day. In many cases there is still a level of attraction felt between the two sides, but not everyone is ready to commit to finding a solution. This can make February 14th an important date to start a new direction in the relationship.

By choosing thoughtful gifts that can transform your thoughts into feelings, you can use this holiday to patch things up with your partner. Here are some Valentines Day gifts to spark some romance with your ex.

Tickets

If you are still talking with your ex, then one of the best gift ideas for getting your romance back into gear is get tickets to a concert or sporting event you know they'll love. Not only is this a great way to remind them just how well you know them, but it is also a great excuse to go on a date together. Just make sure you are confident that you will go to the show together. You don't want to blow hundreds of dollars on seats only to see them take someone else.

Music and Movies

If your ex is still not talking to you, then you will have to be creative with your approach to Valentine's Day. The key is to find a gift that will be curious enough to open, and at the same time, make them think about you in some way. One of the best ways to do this is to give music CD's or movie DVD's that will remind them of you. Think of your relationship when it was at its best. What were you listening to and what movies were you watching? This is a good way to brainstorm title that will get an emotional response from your ex.

Something Small

Most people will say that it is not the size of the gift as long as it comes from the heart. This philosophy is particularly true when trying to mend a relationship. Expensive gifts are more likely to make your ex feel embarrassed and confused; where as a small thoughtful surprise can make them think back to happier times. With this in mind, try shopping for something that is not only inexpensive, but it should also come in a small package. There is something about small boxes that really builds the anticipation of a present, which will take away from any awkwardness in the moment.

The key to any Valentine's Day gift for your ex is for you to think about the message you are sending. Not matter how much you want to patch up your relationship; you do not want to go overboard with extravagant gifts. The better plan is be creative and come up with a gift idea that shows just how well you know your ex. You want them to realize that you two are good together and that you will be waiting for them when the time comes.

How to Find a Sugar Daddy

So you've decided that you want to find a sugar daddy. Congratulations! A life of pampered luxury awaits. Now all you have to do is figure out where to go and what to do in order to find your sugar daddy. Generally speaking, there are two methods to use for finding a sugar daddy to take care of your needs and desires.

The first way is commonly called "free-styling." Free-styling involves going to places where potential sugar daddies congregate. This might be an upscale department store, charity events, golf courses, and the financial district. When you find a man who interests you, make eye contact. Give him a smile and, if you're out shopping, give him a compliment about something he's considering for purchase. This approach is not overly flirtatious and opens the door for real conversation. If he's interested, he'll talk to you. Otherwise, he'll just consider you a friendly gal.

The second method for finding your sugar daddy is to put yourself out there with an advertisement. Newspapers, magazines, and other print ads are still popular. Another alternative is the phone dating lines that are available in most cities. Phone ads for women are almost always free, and if you choose the right time of day to place your ad, you can be more explicit about what it is you're looking for. It is rumored that nighttime screeners are more lax than those who work the day shift. No discussion about finding a sugar daddy would be complete without mention of the internet as a resource. In addition to traditional print and voice advertising, the online dating world is evolving to include websites specifically targeted to sugar daddy/sugar baby relationships. Many websites have popped up in recent months, but only a few are of real use. Adding a photo to your profile is highly recommended. Many of the men won't consider your email worth their time if you don't.

Whatever approach you decide to take on the road to meeting your sugar daddy, you need to be consistent. You can't expect to make one free-styling trip and be successful right off the bat. The same is true for advertisements. Remember...sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a sugar daddy.

Let Go Of An Abusive Relationship

So where are you at in your life? Are you a 'Battered Woman' ? If so, then there's something I'd like to share with you. Why? Because I've been a battered woman and because of where I'm at I feel like I have something to help you understand and to help you break away from a destructive relationship.

Whether you realize it or not, you attracted this person to you. Not because that was what you wanted for yourself and absolutely not because you deserve that, but if you know anything about quantum physics you should know that you attract what your vibrations send out. That is known as the Law of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction states that you attract what you focus your thoughts on. The chances are that somewhere in your life journey someone made you feel like you weren't worthy... that you didn't deserve good things that you needed strict discipline, or that you weren't good enough... taking you to a life of being a battered woman.

Well, you know better than that, don't you? You deserve a loving companion and all the wonderful things in life that you enjoy. You deserve to be happy and nothing should be able to stand in your way.The universe created you in the image of perfection... you are beautiful and many blessings are coming to you every day.

That's hard to believe when your world seems in a shambles, but when you open your eyes to what brought all the negativity in your life you'll find that it all started with negative thoughts and the negativity grew with them thoughts..Your thoughts created your reality, whether you intended them to or not.

It's hard to let go of limiting ideas and beliefs but you need to sort out the ones that serve you and the ones who don't and believe that doors are opening to you to something way better. There's a lesson in what you've been through, now it's time to move on to them better things.

You WILL find love again and it will be a sweet love. You WILL find happiness! It's not easy to walk away but you WILL look back on it and find that it was for the best. You will find yourself and find peace within yourself.. Find the positive things in life and focus on them and watch them attract more good things. Hold the most beautiful vision in your mind and watch it manifest.

Sue Craig is the creator of http://www.unlimitedpower4u.com an enlightening and encouraging site designed to assist people in continually moving towards their higher selves. She is a massage therapist, writer, internet marketer, and lifestyle advocate. Sue has made the principles of the Law of Attraction a way of life and shares what has worked for her to give her a life of total fulfillment and wants others to have the same peace in their lives