When your girl decides that the relationship has run its course, and that there's nothing more to say to each other and nothing left to do together...it sucks. You may not necessarily feel that way, but she does and she's gone. Getting her back wouldn't be easy, but is it possible?
Well, yes...it is very much possible. People do it every day, although for many it just kind of happens that way without much in the way of intent or technique. If you'd like a little more control than that, than just simple coincidence...I can help you out. There'll still be a helping of luck involved, but if you play your cards right you can do a lot towards making chance less of a factor.
It's all in how you handle the hurt, really. There will be hurt, you're only lying to yourself if you try to claim that it doesn't affect you to be dumped by the love of your life. The difference between whether or not you get your ex girlfriend back is pretty much the measure of the difference of whether you let that pain cripple you and hold you back, or if you throw it in the furnace and let it fuel you with motivation to turn things around.
It's really that simple. Either be a victim of the relationship, or stand up and be a man, and fix it. You can't rely on anybody else to put things back together for you, so you have to be the one who steps up to the plate. If you want your ex back as your girlfriend, make it happen.
Start by figuring what went wrong in the relationship, what made it fail. Focus on the things YOU are responsible for...you can't change others, only yourself. Don't worry about anything your ex may have done, those aren't things you can really do anything about. Work on whatever part you had in the relationship's failure. It'll be a little painful to think about and focus on, but it's overall very constructive to your efforts.
Thinking of the problems is only half of it...you have to fix them too. Girls don't give you much credit for just thinking about doing something, you have to do it. You need to solve any issues that were plaguing your relationship. If you don't, any future tries at getting that relationship going again will just end as badly as the first.
It's hard because most of it will involve changing things about yourself that you may not necessarily want to see changed...but if it's worth it to you to have a shot at happiness with your ex-girlfriend, then suck it up and do it. Being in a relationship is a give-and-take sort of thing, and if you're willing to give up what's asked of you to give up, then power to you. I don't advise just doing anything for a woman and letting her take advantage of how you feel about her, but there's a difference between being too stubborn to give her what's due and being wrapped around her finger. You decide what's worth giving up to have her.
Once you've dealt with what needs dealing with, the time comes to show her that you have. This is really just done by spending time with her and being the best that you can be, but breaking the ice all over again after a breakup can be difficult. The best way to do it is to make a simple, harmless contact...an email or phone call seeing how she's doing. Just something that says "Hey, I care about you enough to see what's going on." This can be a nice opener, that's not too up-front about the relationship or the two of you. There should be NO mention of getting back together or anything of the sort unless SHE wants to talk about it. This is a nonaggressive tactic that's much less likely to run off an already-damaged girl.
From here on, it's basically just seriously being the person you always were, without the biggest flaws you used to have. Women are pretty accepting of somebody who seriously tries and does his best for them, so just be the you that she fell in love with without being the you that hurt her enough to leave you. It's also important not to undo all your hard work by slumping back into your old habits and ways once you're together again...it's a common mistake that usually results in the relationship dying again.
The bottom line is that things can be pretty simple if you look at them the right way. Just focus on fixing yourself and be the man she loves without being the man she hates. Follow this advice, and your campaign to get your ex back should be a lot easier.
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